If you are in an abusive relationship, there are some additional ways you can help protect yourself and your children.
  • Keep important phone numbers handy and teach children when and how to use them.
  • If it is safe tell neighbors, family members, and/or friends about any violence and instruct them to call 911 if they see or hear anything suspicious.
  • Make a list of safe places to go in an emergency such as family, a shelter, police, and friends.
  • Try to put money aside in a separate savings account in a different bank.
  • Create a code word for your children and friends so they can call for help.
  • Keep copies of important documents or keys in a safe place outside your home. If you are an immigrant or refugee birth certificates, passports, and green cards are particularly important.
  • Compile a list of important things to take when leaving the house.
  • Call a local or statewide battered women's program to discuss specific safety planning strategies.

Items to Remember When Leaving

  • Identification
  • Welfare information
  • Birth Certificates; yours and your children's
  • Passports, Green cards, Work Permits
  • Social Security cards
  • Divorce papers
  • School & medical records
  • Lease/rental agreement/house deed
  • Money, bankbooks, credit cards
  • Insurance papers
  • Keys to house/car/office
  • Address book/picture of abuser
  • Driver's license and registration
  • Items of sentimental value/jewelry
  • Medications
  • Children's favorite toys and/or blankets

For more information on safety planning, go to Jane Doe, Inc., or National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

This information is provided by the Department of Children and Families.