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Resources for Safety and Support When Facing Domestic Violence

Everyone is entitled to a relationship that is healthy and safe. These resources help those seeking safety and support when facing domestic violence and include programs and contact information.

Sometimes relationships between current or former partners or family members become unsafe. This can happen to anyone regardless of who they are, how they identify, where they are from, or what they do. Individuals in unhealthy relationships may feel confused, angry, afraid and may even blame themselves. These are normal responses. It is important for you to know that it is not your fault and you are not to blame for your partner’s behavior. Abusing someone is a choice that is never acceptable.

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In Massachusetts, what is abuse under the law?

Abuse is defined as “the occurrence of one or more of the following acts between family or household members: (a) attempting to cause or causing physical harm; (b) placing another in fear of imminent serious physical harm; (c) causing another to engage involuntarily in sexual relations by force, threat, or duress; or (d) coercive control.” Family or household members are persons who are or were: married, living together, related by blood or marriage; or, in a substantive dating or engagement relationship; or, persons who have a child in common. M.G.L. c. 209A, section 1.

Other indicators that a relationship might be unsafe or unhealthy may include

  • Name calling, insults, or put downs;
  • Threats of violence to commit harm to oneself, a partner, children, or family pets;
  • Limiting access to money, preventing a partner from getting or keeping a job, ruining a partner’s credit;
  • Tracking a partner’s activities directly or through the use of technology like social networks, email, or phones;
  • Threatening a partner with deportation or withholding legal status documents;
  • Threatening to out a partner’s sexual orientation to family or friends.

What is a safety plan and why is it important?

A safety plan is a personalized plan that can help you react and make decisions when you feel unsafe. A safety plan may include ideas for how to increase your safety if you are in an abusive relationship, if you are planning to leave an abusive relationship, or if you have left an abusive relationship. Safety planning may include things such as:

  • Memorizing or making a list of emergency numbers for local law enforcement agencies or crisis hotlines;
  • Identifying escape routes and places to go if you need to flee from an unsafe situation quickly;
  • Talking to your child(ren) about what they should do if a violent incident occurs and they are afraid;
  • Putting together an emergency bag that includes money, medicine, extra car keys, and important documents such as birth certificates, social security cards, immigration documents, or health insurance cards.

What resources are available?

It is important to know that you are not alone and that there are various agencies that can provide support. Community based advocacy or crisis agencies can connect you with advocates who offer free and confidential services. SAFEPLAN Advocates are court-based and can assist with restraining order applications. Victim Witness Advocates work for the local District Attorney’s Office and can answer questions about any pending criminal matters involving violence against you. Child Witness to Violence programs can help if you are concerned about your child(ren)’s behavior at related to the impact of violence or stress in the home. Contact information can be found below.

The programs and resources listed below can offer information, help, and support for you or someone you know who is experiencing or has experienced domestic violence.

24/7 Helplines (Statewide/National)

State Agencies

Statewide Culturally Specific Domestic Violence Resources

Victim Witness Advocates

Legal Assistance

If you need help with a legal problem, MassLegalServices, MassLegalHelp, and MassCLAVC can provide contact information for legal aid programs, government agencies, and court-based programs. Each program will determine if they can assist you.

Child Support Assistance

If you need assistance getting, enforcing, or changing a child support order, contact the Child Support Enforcement Division at 800-332-2733.

Domestic Violence and Pets

RedRover provides information about pet-friendly domestic violence shelters, organizations that might be able to assist when pets cannot stay with you at a shelter, and financial assistance for victims of domestic violence and their pets.

Supporting Someone Facing Domestic Violence

There is no timetable when it comes to recovering from domestic violence. As individuals, even if we have the same experience, we all heal differently. Often, the first reaction an individual receives from the first people they talk to influences their decision to move forward and get help. You can have a profound impact just by the language you use.

Using phrases such as “I’m sorry this happened” and “it’s not your fault” acknowledges the experience and the impact it has had on a victim’s life while also reminding them that no one deserves to be subjected to abuse. Reassuring individuals who have experienced domestic violence that they are not alone and that there are various agencies that are available to provide support and answer questions may also be helpful.

References

  1. M.G.L. Chapter 209A: Abuse Prevention

Additional Resources

Open PDF file, 380.37 KB,  Resources for safety and support (Main Pamphlet) (English, PDF 380.37 KB)
Date published: April 3, 2024
Last updated: September 18, 2024

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